When we give in the world what we want the most, we heal the broken part inside each of us. And I feel, in the last eight years, that this journey, this miraculous vagina journey, has taught me this really simple thing, which is that happiness exists in action; it exists in telling the truth and saying what your truth is; and it exists in giving away what you want the most. And I feel that knowledge and that journey has been an extraordinary privilege, and I feel really blessed to have been here today to communicate that to you.
The UN has actually said this recently — that one out of every three women on this planet will be beaten or raped in her lifetime
After every show of Vagina Monologues women lined up to tell me how they were raped, and how they were battered, and how they were beaten, and how they were gang-raped in parking lots, and how they were incested by their uncles.And I wanted to stop doing the “Vagina Monologues” because it felt too daunting. I felt like a war photographer who takes pictures of terrible events, but doesn’t intervene on their behalf.
Eve Estler talked with over 200 women. She talked to older women, younger women, married women, lesbians, single women; she talked to corporate professionals, college professors, actors, sex workers; she talked to African-American women, Asian-American women, Native-American women, Caucasian women, Jewish women.
“You’ve got to get down there on your back, in front of a mirror, full-length preferred. You’ve got to get in the perfect position, with the perfect light, which then becomes shadowed by the angle you’re at. You’re twisting your head up, arching your back, it’s exhausting.”
There’re three qualities I want to talk about. One is seeing what’s right in front of you, and talking about it, and stating it. I think what I learned from talking about the vagina, and speaking about the vagina, is it was the most obvious thing — it was right in the center of my body and the center of the world — and yet it was the one thing nobody talked about.The second thing is that what talking about the vagina did is it opened this door which allowed me to see that there was a way to serve the world to make it better. And that’s where the deepest happiness has actually come from. And the third principle of happiness, which I’ve realized recently.
This is how difficult to locate vagina, says the playwright actvist Eve Esler.